Apparently sheikh ibn utheymeen says its permissible to force ourselves on our wives and one brother even said I can grab her and do whatever against her will. Recently I see from another brother mentioning imam Shafi'i saying that forcing a women into things even if it doesn't harm her isn't allowed (which could be misread) in his book kitab Al-umm volume 6 I got shown a video that has no translation for non arabs who speak English and I also heard there is a difference of opinion if so which one is more authentic? (do not respond with emotion, respond with facts and evidence pls) Note: I would like to know all 4 madhab stances on my exact question as well

Marital rape consists of raping your spouse, i.e. having intercourse with your spouse despite a lack of consent. In modern law, marital rape is on par with extramarital rape in terms of legal consequences: the rapist will be punished, whether the victim was his spouse or not. This is not clear to me in sharia if the husband rapes the wife. One of her major duties according to the marital contract is sexual availability, and refusing to oblige is not only considered a major sin, it has the legal implication of [losing her right to maintenance by her husband](https://islam.stackexchange.com/a/38759/17702) (the linked answer talks about leaving the house without permission, but on a fortiori grounds, this also holds about her refusing intercourse; this result is also explicitly mentioned in the section of which excerpts are cited in the linked answer). I can't find a definition of rape in fiqh sources, and the only mention of a punishment for rape in Reliance of the Traveler I can find is in o7.3 in the context of how far self-defense can go (not in the context of legal punishments): > As for when an aggressor is raping someone whom it is unlawful for him > to have sexual intercourse with, it is permissible to kill him > forthwith. Clearly this says nothing about marital rape since it is lawful for the husband to have sex with his wife. The [Hidayah](https://archive.org/stream/Hedaya_201703/Hedaya#page/n395/mode/2up/search/rape) only mentions marital rape in a footnote to a paragraph about maintenance of the wife; it says nothing about any consequences for the husband. [This answer](https://islam.stackexchange.com/a/27526/17702) to a related question also says nothing about a legal punishment for the husband, or even any negative legal effects like owing her money. Thus my questions: - Which definitions of rape exist in fiqh? In particular, what is the relevance of consent? - Are there any criminal law consequences for a husband raping his wife that don't also exist for a husband causing bodily harm to his wife? (To explain the difference: is a husband who rapes his wife by beating her with an iron rod punished differently from a husband who beats his wife with an iron rod without also raping her?)

Before asking my question I need to explain what made me ask it: Often when in a Muslim community a new revert/convert (in the cases I witnessed always female) came. The Muslims always gave (her) the advice to get married with a practicing Muslim of the other gender. So what if for some reasons one of this future spouses only agrees for this marriage to make a good deed, so the intention isn't to get married in the obvious way, but to help the other to learn as quick as possible more about Islam and how to practice things according this religion. So the purpose of this marriage is creating a legal mahram contact where both could be together. Note that I've often encountered marriages where the husband needed somebody to care for him, these were arranged marriages were a younger lady married an old for example blind man to take care from him. Apparently such marriages were "Building a family" isn't the main goal seem accepted. I guess if somewhere deep inside the idea of a future divorce exists this could be considered as nikah al-muta' by some scholars. And therefore this condition might not be accepted for nikah. But I assume that it is possible to get married without the intention of being physical whether or or not this can be placed in a marriage contract can be discussed. Also verses of the Qur'an and the prophetic traditions rather invite us to get married and have children, which is excluded by this condition! - So can such a condition be valid? - In any case: **What kinds of conditions are not valid for 'aqd an-nikah**? (ruling?) - Assuming this condition is valid, what if the spouses later want to be together as real spouses and have children must they divorce or re-write the 'aqd, what is the correct solution? ---------- At least this fatwa (only available in Arabic so far islamqa #220804 ) seems to say that delaying to have children (or pregnancy) can be a valid condition. Even if the fatwa says that the husband should convince his future wife to have children, as this is recommended by shari'a.

I am a muslim male. When I was a child a person older than me had anal sex with me several times. When I was a teenager I had oral sex with one of my cousins. Does that make me a fornicator? According to Quran 24:3 A fornicator does not marry except a fornicator. How can I get married?

If a christian guy is married to a christian lady but process of divorce in action can he embrace islam and marry a muslim lady while finalizing his divorce from the Christian lady

I have two marriage contracts with the same person. The first marriage took place in a foreign country with a **lower amount of mehr**, and the second contract was executed in our home country with a **higher amount of mehr**. However, before finalizing the first contract, both parties agreed on the higher amount of haq mehr which is mentioned in the **second contract.** The first marriage contract in the foreign country was happened because the marriage court did not permit a higher amount of mehr; there is a maximum limitation on haq mehr in that foreign country. Both our families also live in foreign countries. We did this to simplify the visa transfer process from the bride's father to the groom. Additionally, at that time, both families could not travel to our home country for other reasons. As a result, the first marriage ceremony occurred in the foreign country, and eight months later, the second marriage took place in our home country. **From an Islamic perspective, I would like to clarify which marriage contract holds validity, whether it is the first or the second.** I agree to pay the amount of haq mehr mentioned in the second marriage.

Marrying is not a farz in Islam. What if someone chooses not to get married and keep fasting to control desire?

السلام علیکم I wanted to ask that does a women get punished if she doesn't want to get married because she is terrified of her "naseeb" or what her life will be like? I have met many married women (my mother, married sisters,cousins,friends, and aunts e.t.c) and almost all of their lives get ruined after marriage. Whether it is the physical, emotional, financial or sexual abuse or even attempted murder they face by their in-laws or husband's or how they become physically ill due to having children. Many women that I know have arthritis or chronic illness due to having children, and they still have to do all the housework and raise their children while being in constant pain. Many have said to me themselves that they regret marrying and are staying just for the kids. But those kids are then facing abuse by the hands of the parents (me and my sisters included). Due to this I have developed an immense fear of marriage and having children I know that getting married is a sunnah and that children are a blessing but I honestly do not want to get married because just the thought of facing any of these martial problems terrifies me. Many of my sisters and cousins that are staying in their marriages for their children are so frustrated and angry all the time that the children are being negatively impacted. As someone that had to face this kind of abuse from her parents I do not want to harm my future children like this, that is why I do not want to get married and have children. But my mother keeps telling me that as parents it is their farz to get their children married before dying and by refusing I am making it difficult for them to get in jannah, I know that it is important that we have faith in Allah but when it comes to marriage I just don't want to risk it? Does that make it difficult for me or my parents to get good deeds or get in jannah? Will I be making Allah angry by refusing to follow the sunnah?

Ibn Battal said: The scholars unanimously agreed that it is permissible for fathers to marry off their young daughters, even if they are still in the cradle - Umdat Al-Qari Sharh Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 14, Page 21 

Salam. I read in Tafsir Al Qurtubi that a man can marry off his slave according to majority of scholars (and this applies to both genders to Malik and Abu Hanifa RH, don't know about Imam Ahmad.) (https://quran.ksu.edu.sa/tafseer/qortobi/sura24-aya32.html) He says that Malik says it is not permissible if it is harmful to the slave. My question is- does this apply in the other madhabs, that it should be a suitable match etc etc.. or can a man marry off his slave, even to an untrustworthy and corrupt person? My confusion stems a lot here too- I read from Ibn al Mundhir al Shafi’i that a minor female can be betrothed by her father to another male **if it is a suitable match** (same with a male) without her/his consent being sought directly, so shouldn’t it be the same for slaves to be a suitable match, as it is somewhat a kind of guardianship.. (feed them from what you eat, shelter, etc..)? Thanks. Sorry if I went on too long. It is my first time using a site like this. I usually just stick to my curriculum and teacher

I'm in a relationship with a man of my age who is undergoing training in Armed forces. So he is not allowed to get married now. Because of my mother's insistence he had to go to army so that I don't have to face army and also he can get married to me. I want to get married as early as possible because I have felt satan and nafs are taking us and influencing us to wrongdoings. Both our families want us to get married when he gets permission which is in 4 years to come, and also want me to complete my mbbs and and another degree before marriage which is yet 5-6 years. Can we at least have marriage without their concern right now? Who will be my wali? If we get married we cannot expose it publicly because it is risky for his job. I want to get rid out of this sin and want to enter into a halal relation.

Assalam o Alaikum, I have a case which I don’t know whom to ask my husband cursed Allah in anger as we are going through financial difficulties, I asked him to seek forgiveness as saying that is kufr, he said those words loud in front of me, do you think it would have any impact of our Nikkah as I haven’t heard him saying for any forgiveness from Allah. And if he does want to seek forgiveness from Allah what would be the status of our nikah. Please enlighten me. Thank you

What is the ruling if the husband wants oral sex and believes it is not haraam, but the wife thinks it is disgusting and/or haraam. Does the husband have to just be patient and go without it, or marry another wife? Being patient may lead him to sin.

Aslem walkuim ​​​​​ I married a girl about 3 years ago the marriage lasted for about a year then we had a lot of arguments so we separated (we never got divorced we both went our separate ways) after 2 years off no communication me and her started back talking! My question is are we still married as far as deen? If not what are the requirements for us to get back together?

Scholars of Islam generally claim that it is not permissible for a woman to demand alimony from her ex-Husband except in instances of child support. However, I came across this Ayah in Quran 2:241 that states: > وَلِلْمُطَلَّقَاتِ مَتَاعٌۢ بِٱلْمَعْرُوفِ ۖ حَقًّا عَلَى ٱلْمُتَّقِينَ > > Reasonable provisions must be made for divorced women—a duty on those > mindful ˹of Allah˺. > > Surah Al-Baqarah (2:241) The vast majority of jurists interpret this as a Mahr given to women whose dower was not specified during the time of consumation of the marriage. However, according to IslamQA , it is the opinion of Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyya and Sheikh Muhammad ibn Salih al-Uthaymin that this must be given to all divorced women, even if the marriage has been consumated and the Mahr has been given. > Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Maintenance must be given to every divorced women, even after consummation. What is the opinion of the four schools of thought and other classical Islamic scholars on this topic. Is this a one time payment or regular monthly payments akin to alimony in the West.

As you know the age to legally marry in the US is 18, and to my parents the age at which we decide my wife is 25 or later. So basically as a teenager I can't have a wife and dating is of course not allowed, so no romance with a girl at all. But, what if I had a female friend that is also a Muslim, and what if I like her, think she has a good personality, and is my type so I intend to marry her later. She knows this and also thinks I'm good partner material and wants to marry me too and openly stated so. The relationship between us would still be platonic but of course its hard to say "I wanna marry you when I can" without stepping over the line sometimes with some flirting or affection. It isn't as much affection or flirting as a couple but it is still present. Is this relationship haram?

It is understood by the consensus of scholars that a father may arrange the marriage for his minor son and the marriage is binding on him when he reaches puberty. My question is — who is responsible to pay the dower (mahr) to his wife. The father or the minor son? Ibn Abi Shaybah has posted several opinions in his book , The Book of the Compiler, both of which are contradicting each other. Some scholars say the father, some say the minor son. I would like to know the opinion of the four madhabs and other classical scholars, and what is the most authentic opinion in this regard.

When the husband cannot perform again because of health and again he is aged (67)and the woman her is much younger (36 years), what can the wife do to avoid zina

What is the ruling on the marriage between a Muslim man and a Christian / Jewish woman? I know that this kind of marriage is allowed but what is the complete ruling on this i.e. is a woman being Christian / Jewish enough and sufficient criteria to get married or is there anything else that needs to be taken care of? What if she does not want to change her religion after marriage?

I was born Muslim but as I grew up I started having doubts . I believe in shahada but I doubt the authenticity of the Quran . I am a good performer and go for salat when I visit my family but I do not believe in doing it otherwise .I do not fast in Ramadan I do not know if I will ever want to do Haj. I have recently met a Muslim woman who I love a lot and she is also in love with me . I shared my doubts regarding my faith and now she is concerned that our marriage may not be halal . I do not want to lie to her and want to know if our marriage will be a sin for her or a halal marriage.