Apparently sheikh ibn utheymeen says its permissible to force ourselves on our wives and one brother even said I can grab her and do whatever against her will. Recently I see from another brother mentioning imam Shafi'i saying that forcing a women into things even if it doesn't harm her isn't allowed (which could be misread) in his book kitab Al-umm volume 6 I got shown a video that has no translation for non arabs who speak English and I also heard there is a difference of opinion if so which one is more authentic? (do not respond with emotion, respond with facts and evidence pls) Note: I would like to know all 4 madhab stances on my exact question as well

Assalam o Alaikum, I have a case which I don’t know whom to ask my husband cursed Allah in anger as we are going through financial difficulties, I asked him to seek forgiveness as saying that is kufr, he said those words loud in front of me, do you think it would have any impact of our Nikkah as I haven’t heard him saying for any forgiveness from Allah. And if he does want to seek forgiveness from Allah what would be the status of our nikah. Please enlighten me. Thank you

As you know the age to legally marry in the US is 18, and to my parents the age at which we decide my wife is 25 or later. So basically as a teenager I can't have a wife and dating is of course not allowed, so no romance with a girl at all. But, what if I had a female friend that is also a Muslim, and what if I like her, think she has a good personality, and is my type so I intend to marry her later. She knows this and also thinks I'm good partner material and wants to marry me too and openly stated so. The relationship between us would still be platonic but of course its hard to say "I wanna marry you when I can" without stepping over the line sometimes with some flirting or affection. It isn't as much affection or flirting as a couple but it is still present. Is this relationship haram?

When the husband cannot perform again because of health and again he is aged (67)and the woman her is much younger (36 years), what can the wife do to avoid zina

I'm researching several verses from the Qur'an and as it is my first time to delve into the Islamic religion I am having difficulty with some of the translations and such. > 65: Divorce, verse 4, says, Pickthall, "And for such of your women as despair of menstruation, if ye doubt, their period (of waiting) shall be three months, along with those who have it not. And for those with child, their period shall be till they bring forth their burden. And whosoever keepeth his duty to Allah, He maketh his course easy for him." But then we see... > 65: Divorce, verse 4 says, Sahih International Translation, "And those who no longer expect menstruation among your women - if you doubt, then their period is three months, and [also for] those who have not menstruated. And for those who are pregnant, their term is until they give birth. And whoever fears Allah - He will make for him of his matter ease." I've had it presented to me that this verse encourages marrying underage girls but as far as I can tell it has nothing to do with underage women but rather women undergoing menopause? Or reaching the age where they no longer experience menses. Does this verse discuss an underage wife or simply a wife who is too old to menstruate?

Imam al-Shafi‘i (may Allah have mercy on him) said in his famous book Al-Um: > و قال الامام الشافعي رحمه الله في كتاب "الأم" : وهكذا لو كانت منفردة > به ، أو مع أمة له يطؤها ، أمر بتقوى الله عز وجل ، وألا يضر بها في > الجماع ، ولم يفرض عليه منه شيء بعينه ، إنما يفرض عليه ما لا صلاح لها > إلا به من نفقة وسكنى وكسوة ، وأن يأوى إليها ، فأما الجماع فموضع تلذذ > ولا يجبر أحد عليه. (كتاب الأم، الجزء 6، الصفحة 482، باب الخلع والنشوز) Here’s a precise English translation of the passage from Imam al-Shafi‘i’s Al-Um (Vol. 6, p. 482, Chapter on Khul‘ and Nushuz): > "And likewise, if she is alone with him, or with a female slave whom > he has intercourse with, he is commanded to fear Allah Almighty and > not to harm her in sexual relations. Nothing specific is prescribed > for him regarding this; rather, what is required of him is what she > cannot do without—namely, providing her with maintenance, > accommodation, clothing, and taking her in. As for sexual intercourse, > it is a matter of pleasure, and no one can be compelled to it." Is Imam Shafi'i talking about MEN only i.e. intercourse is a matter of pleasure only for MEN and they cannot be compelled to do it? Or is he talked about both MEN and WOMEN (wife and concubine) in general?

My wife has decided to separate because of reason that has happened is beyond repair. She asked me to get out of the house and I did, I reassured kids I am going to be back as they are still under 10. But my wife has decided to be separate. I am in another city at my relative. She been talking to kids about what happened and how dad is not gonna live with them. I have met them but she is not happy for me to meet like that. I want to know what rights I have on my kids, how can we make sure kids upbringing is co parenting. What goes Islam says about it? This is the second time she told me to get out of the house even I tried to separate the bed once but she won’t leave me alone. She has anger management issues. I wanna know in light of Quran how and what to continue when kids are involved.

I don't have a job right now and I am in a relationship with a woman and we both want to get married. Can we get married without telling our families? So that our relationship is confirmed. And when I get a job, we will inform our families and get married. Please answer my question and if i can, then how can I do it and what things should I keep in mind?

As per our teachings, I shave my private parts and underarms, and never let the hair grow beyond the size of a rice grain. But my husband, after few years of marriage now, wants to see me hairy on the bed. I think porn movies has impacted his mind. He is insisting me to grow hairy once. What should I do? Follow my core teachings or listen to what my husband wants?

Assalamu Alaikum. Can i insert my right hands finger into my wife vagina? Is it permissible to finger with the right hand if vaginal fluid (Madhy/Semen) comes out of the vagina while fingering the wife? The right hand can be stimulated better than the left hand. So can a husband and wife touch each other's private part with the right hand, even if there is semen or impure fluid in the genitals?

We spouses are in long distance and my husband has high sexual desires. Due to lack of sexual activity in LDR, he feels disconnected to me and has a fear of falling into haram or losing interest in me. Are we allowed to masturbate for each other when needed as lack of sexual intimacy is affecting our marriage?

this is something that has been bothering me for a while and I was hoping someone could answer or educate me on this topic. when a woman's husband dies she must wait 4 months and a couple of days before getting married. I understand that this rule is put out in case the woman is pregnant. However, the woman is not allowed to wear jewelry, perfume or anything that may beautify her in order to show respect to her husband who has passed away. she cannot go out with friends to feel better and can only leave the house for necessity. I don't think this is necessarily bad but what bothers me is that when a mans wife dies, he does not have to show any respect or mourn his wife's passing away. in fact he can marry someone else a day after her passing away. isn't there some kind of respect shown for a wife who's passed? why is a wife worth so much less than a husband? it's starting to seem like a wife is required to love and respect her husband more than he is required to love and respect her.

according to authentic hadiths she will be with her last husband. does that mean her previous husband will lose her in jannah? what's the point of forming a relationship and taking the time to be bond then? aren't we supposed to find peace/comfort within our spouses according to the holy quran? So does the man just watch as his wife enters jannah with another man, knowing there's absolutely nothing he can do since he died?

Is it right for the husband to tell his wife to go stay with her mother since he hasn't a place for his uncle & guest's to stay in our house b/c of his uncle's wife funeral , and there is no place in his uncle's home for his male guests to sleep

So, I saw this [Fatwa](https://islamqa.info/en/answers/88353/what-is-the-reward-for-spouses-treating-one-another-kindly) on islamqa and it quoted a Hadith. This part of the Hadith says: > Shall I not tell you about your women in Paradise?” We said: Yes, O Messenger of Allah. He said: “The loving and fertile one who, if she gets angry or is mistreated or her husband gets angry says, ‘Here is my hand in your hand, I shall not sleep until you are pleased.’” As far as the authenticity of the Hadith goes, the article says: > It was also narrated from a number of other Sahabah, hence it was classed as hasan by al-Albani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah (3380) and in Saheeh al-Targheeb (1942). Does this mean that women have to tolerate mistreatment and abuse from their husbands? And what if a woman is not fertile? Isn’t she deserving of Paradise because Allah has made the fertile women superior?

I have a wish like all other women that I can't share my husband with any other woman. In this world if it is not possible and he has to marry with others according to Sharia then in Jannah, may I wish that my husband is not shared in Jannah with other legal wives. I have to sacrifice in dunya but in Jannah I want to complete my wish.

A wife is supposed to wear what her husband wishes if I am not wrong so my question is that if the husband wants his wife to wear tight, seethrough or short clothes in public can she wear it or not

If a husband is a good human being but the wife never liked him and is not attracted towards him and thinks that he can not provide well for her financially then is this a valid reason to seek khula?

If a spouse marries another spouse and they give gifts and things to that spouse. But he/she divorces the other that same night or the next day and run away with the gifts and money. Can the other spouse demand it back? I have found some fatwa- From a Fatwa of Al-Azhar University: "If a woman enters into a marriage with the explicit intent of obtaining money and then divorces immediately to avoid fulfilling her marital duties, this constitutes fraud. In such a case, the husband has the right to request the annulment of the marriage and reclaim any gifts or dowry given. The woman's intention to deceive makes the marriage invalid, and gifts exchanged in an invalid contract must be returned." From the Permanent Committee of Islamic Scholars (Saudi Arabia): "A marriage entered into with deceptive intent for financial gain, with no intention of fulfilling the marital obligations, is considered invalid. In such cases, the husband is entitled to reclaim the dowry and gifts given, as they were exchanged based on a marriage contract that was rooted in fraud." Ibn Qudamah (Hanbali), in his work "Al-Mughni", states that if a person enters a marriage with fraudulent intentions (for example, with the intent to deceive the other party), the marriage can be annulled, and the deceived party may be entitled to reclaim any gifts or payments made during the marriage. This is in line with the principle that fraud nullifies a contract. Al-Mughni, Volume 7, Page 457: "If a marriage is based on deception, such as one spouse hiding their true intentions or misrepresenting something fundamental to the marriage, then the marriage may be annulled, and any gifts or money exchanged could be reclaimed." Al-Shaybani (Hanafi Fiqh): The Hanafi school, in general, holds that a marriage based on deception is a form of fraud. If one party is deceived about a crucial fact (like the intention to divorce or other fundamental issues), the contract can be annulled. This would typically lead to the return of any material goods exchanged under fraudulent circumstances. "Al-Hidayah": The Hanafi text outlines that if the marriage is found to be based on deceit (e.g., false promises), the gifts may be returned, as the basis for their exchange was invalid. Maliki Scholars: Maliki jurists also assert that deceit in marriage, such as entering a marriage under false pretenses, can lead to annulment. If the marriage is annulled due to fraud, the deceived party has the right to request the return of gifts. Al-Mudawwana (by Sahnun): It discusses the consequences of marriage fraud and outlines that the deceived party might be entitled to the return of any gifts or dowry if fraud is proven. Please clarify.

I have searched about the question and some similar topics in islamweb, islamqa and other questions on this page. According the fatwas and answers I have till now comprehended that- 1) A wife is not obliged to do housework as it is not in the marriage contract. But it is encouraged to do so, if the husband is not able to hire a maid or cook. 2) The wife is obliged to obey the husband in all matter that are not haram and not beyond her capacity. So, my question is that if a man is able to arrange for a maid but not a cook (financial reasons) can he ask his wife to do the cooking? As even though she is not obliged **by default** to do household works, **she has to obey him** in what is within her capacity and not haram. Moreover certain hadith also depicts that women used to do that when the husband was not able to afford a servant. And this hadith states that woman is responsible for the house of her husband - > Ibn 'Umar reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, "All of you are shepherds and each of you is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of the people of his house and he is responsible. A woman is the shepherd of the house of her husband and she is responsible. Each of you is a shepherd and each is responsible for his flock." Classed as Sahih (Al Albani). Collected from sunnah.com