Is it permissible to force ourselves on our wives even if they refuse intimacy without a valid reason

Apparently sheikh ibn utheymeen says its permissible to force ourselves on our wives and one brother even said I can grab her and do whatever against her will. Recently I see from another brother mentioning imam Shafi'i saying that forcing a women into things even if it doesn't harm her isn't allowed (which could be misread) in his book kitab Al-umm volume 6 I got shown a video that has no translation for non arabs who speak English and I also heard there is a difference of opinion if so which one is more authentic? (do not respond with emotion, respond with facts and evidence pls) Note: I would like to know all 4 madhab stances on my exact question as well