Do the parents get punished if they do not get their daughter married, or Is it haram if a woman does not want to get married because she is afraid?

السلام علیکم I wanted to ask that does a women get punished if she doesn't want to get married because she is terrified of her "naseeb" or what her life will be like? I have met many married women (my mother, married sisters,cousins,friends, and aunts e.t.c) and almost all of their lives get ruined after marriage. Whether it is the physical, emotional, financial or sexual abuse or even attempted murder they face by their in-laws or husband's or how they become physically ill due to having children. Many women that I know have arthritis or chronic illness due to having children, and they still have to do all the housework and raise their children while being in constant pain. Many have said to me themselves that they regret marrying and are staying just for the kids. But those kids are then facing abuse by the hands of the parents (me and my sisters included). Due to this I have developed an immense fear of marriage and having children I know that getting married is a sunnah and that children are a blessing but I honestly do not want to get married because just the thought of facing any of these martial problems terrifies me. Many of my sisters and cousins that are staying in their marriages for their children are so frustrated and angry all the time that the children are being negatively impacted. As someone that had to face this kind of abuse from her parents I do not want to harm my future children like this, that is why I do not want to get married and have children. But my mother keeps telling me that as parents it is their farz to get their children married before dying and by refusing I am making it difficult for them to get in jannah, I know that it is important that we have faith in Allah but when it comes to marriage I just don't want to risk it? Does that make it difficult for me or my parents to get good deeds or get in jannah? Will I be making Allah angry by refusing to follow the sunnah?