A husband made a list of demands which prompted his wife to leave Islam; are all of them legally acceptable?

Among one of many testimonials of ex-Muslims, WikiIslam (reposting from FaithFreedom) lists how Andrea, a US convert to Islam, was prompted to leave Islam by a list of demands made by her husband. This is the list: > Here are my demands and you will follow them not because I demand them, but because Allah demands them. And Allah demands submission to the husband. > > 1. You will wear hijab at all times. > 2. You will not befriend Muslim girls without hijab, and you will absolutely not befriend Kafirs. > 3. When a male friend or colleague of mine enters the house, you will go to a separate room, and stay there until he leaves, unless you serve him food or drink. > 4. You will not work, even if I am not able to financially support you, you will be around Kafirs at work, and they will look at you lustfully and tempt you to do wrong. Women are weak, you are weak, and you will probably end up harassed by a Kafir. > 5. If you leave, even with friends, tell me where you are at all times, and whatever you buy you must show me once you return home > 6. I am allowed to beat you softly, but only under extreme circumstances, such as denying sex. > 7. If I want to get another wife, or two or three, it is my right, and Allah has recommended it, so if you were a good Muslim you will even help me search for a wife. However, if I do find one, you cannot object to me wanting to be a better Muslim. As far as I can tell, every one of these demands is halal; I seek to confirm this. **Question**: Are all of these demands by Andrea's husband legally acceptable? The husband seems within his rights to make these demands, and if the wife does not obey them, she could be labelled as "rebellious". Imam Shamsu ed-Deen Dhahabi , *Al-Kaba'ir* (translated) or *Major Sins* (pdf ) lists "A Wife's Rebellion Against Her Husband" as major sin number 47. Number 6 is an alarm bell for people who have experienced domestic violence. You learn to escape while you are still capable, before it escalates into something more serious. You put physical safety first, and ignore the social cost of your "friends" branding you irrational, rebellious, etc.