Hell verses the Unconditional Forgiveness of Jesus

Jesus commands us to forgive unconditionally. Does he do the same with us? Of does Jesus ask us to do something he is unwilling or unable to do himself? At his death, he said "forgive them" able his killers. Were they forgiven? Is God's love and forgiveness unconditional? Or must we earn God's love and forgiveness by believing the right list of beliefs? And why would God command us to do something he is unwilling or unable to do? I'm told God will only forgive me on the condition that I say a prayer and believe a list of beliefs (and Ive been told different lists of required beliefs). If God's love is conditional, than it seems to lead to an absurdity. That a person who loves and forgives others without condition, while Jesus refuses to do the same, makes that person more loving in forgiving than Jesus. The Bible says that every knee shall bow. Does God still refuse to forgive those people? Why would God place a condition, then set a top secrete deadline for us to meet that deadline (our death), then torture us for all of eternity for not meeting the condition? Why does God place greater value on his rules than on his compassion? Jesus forgave everyone. Jesus forgave the adulteress brought to him by the religious leaders, without condition. He forgave the paraplegic after being impressed by the faith of the guys friends. He forgave the blind man who specifically said he did not know ow who Jesus was. What changed? Why is there no end to God's eternal anger and retribution toward his children who do not earn his love and forgiveness by believing the right things.