Explaining non-attachment to the very attached

I've been told by someone close to me that my meditation and desire to let go are very threatening to her. She sees sense desires, ego and attachments as very natural and wholesome, and my way of life as a threat or a questionable choice at the very least. She's aware of Buddhism and renunciate ideals, but thinks the Buddha was an idiot for leaving his family and palace to chase nirvana. This was the essence of an hour long conversation, so there's lots I am leaving out. Seeing that I was very cheerful after an hour long harangue only infuriated her some more. Some of the more colorful comments here: > You're like the cartoonist who draws cartoons of Mohammed and incites > terrorists. By meditating all the time you are trying to be perfect, > you're actually making fun of us who don't meditate and like our egos. > I get angry when I see you meditate. > > How can you smile? Stop treating me like a child, you don't know > better than me. I know what I am saying, the world thinks like me, not > like you. I'd like to put it out there for general comment, but my specific question is, what to do when Dharma is (un)intentionally violent like this? How can I help or at least not hurt these people in my life? (I was reminded to ask this when I came across: https://buddhism.stackexchange.com/questions/10427/right-speech-in-social-situations) *p.s.* Being a vegetarian I'm used to such comments from people who think I am trying to be better than them. It became less of a problem over time, but it's of a much larger magnitude w.r.t Dharma.